Shut up and watch

I’m the annoying person who tries to figure out the plot during the movie. To add insult to injury, not only do I try to account for every “who done it and why?”, I also feel the need to blurt out my hypotheses to whoever’s with me.

After much thought, I’ve discovered the real reason I work to unravel mysteries as opposed to watching them play out is because I need to be right. My choices to present information no one asked for, speaks to my need for constant validation. I often lose grip of my own life’s many plot twists and in my desperate attempt to control SOMETHING…ANYTHING, I micro-manage the small details of my day. No one expects me to be right all the time. In fact, no one even cares. At the end of the day, instead of living, I take attention away from life’s experiences.

Looking back, I’ve sabotaged many fun days by placing my feelings at the center. It’s true the people who do the most talking are the most insecure, including myself. The flaws in our character are reflected in our seemingly harmless, little habits. I believe we owe it to ourselves and each other, to figure out who we really are and identify what we may need to work on.

Sometimes it’s as simple as staying quiet. Patience is personally my ‘Achilles’ Heel’ which is why I’m constantly being tested. The lesson I’ve learned so far is that we can all benefit from speaking less. You’ll be surprised at how many questions are answered by just taking the time to listen.



Raven Carey-James