The Truth Shall Set You Free

I’m tired of lying. I’ve spent so much of my time lying to myself and others to blend in and/or avoid conflict. Whether they were outright lies or just sprinkled untruths, I’ve found falsifying stories to be unnecessary and exhausting.

There are a couple of reasons why people lie. Either they’re afraid of how others will react, feel they need to portray a certain image of themselves to be accepted, or believe that lying saves time and energy.

Everybody can handle the truth if said with love. When you lie, you remove another person’s free will. If a person cheats on their significant other for example, and doesn’t tell them; they take away their partner’s choice to process the situation and make the decision to forgive them or not. What I found in these situations having been in them myself, is that I was never really upset about the infidelity, so much as the way in which it was revealed. My problem with cheating is that it speaks to our inability to communicate what’s going wrong in our relationships, so we resort to acting out instead of having a conversation.

Once you get to the root and address your underlying problems of lack of appreciation or quality time, you realize you can fix things before you break trust. Whether you decide to work it out or go your separate ways, we can’t be so afraid of losing possession or control of a person that we resort to tricking them into staying by being dishonest.

We all deserve the respect of being a part of the conversation about what happens in our own lives. No one should have those decisions made for them. The reason why we are called to be honest is because It’s abusive to be deceptive, and we are to treat others the way we would like to be treated. This week I encourage you all to start giving the loyalty and respect you demand from others. Think before you speak and speak before you act. Take the extra time to communicate your intentions or lack there of; it saves time in the long run and restores confidence that at the end of the day, no matter what happens, we owe it to each other to be upfront.


Raven Carey-James